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NSFW - the ultimate act of good mothering.

Abortion: why it’s the ultimate motherly act-Comment-Columnists-Caitlin Moran-TimesOnline

What I am vexed with is the idea that, by having an early abortion, a woman is somehow being unfemale and, indeed, unmotherly. That the absolute essence of womanhood and maternity is to sustain life, at all costs, whatever the situation.

My belief in the ultimate sociological, emotional and practical necessity for abortion did, as I have mentioned before, become even stronger after I had my two children. It is only after you have had a nine-month pregnancy, laboured to get the child out, fed it, cared for it, sat with it until 3am, risen with it at 6am, swooned with love for it and been reduced to furious tears by it that you really understand just how important it is for a child to be wanted. And, possibly even more importantly, to be wanted by a reasonably sane, stable mother. Last year I had an abortion, and I can honestly say it was one of the least difficult decisions of my life...I knew I would see my existing two daughters less, my husband less, my career would be hamstrung and, most importantly of all, I was just too tired to do it all again.

...I would like to see a time when abortion is considered an intelligent, logical, humble, compassionate thing to do. I would like abortion to be considered as, perversely, one of the ultimate acts of good mothering.

As Larkin said:

This Be The Verse

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

The question is, just because you believe you will fuck up is that reason enough to abort the child?
As an unwanted bastard my answer has to be NO, your mileage may vary.


I support abortion (or rather, oppose restrictions upon it), on the grounds that fetuses are not human beings. When it's human, killing it (with a few rare exceptions) is murder. When it's not, it's no different, to me, than clipping your toe nails. I believe the 'changeover' point is somewhere around the 24 week period, but I'm no scientist.

I suspect that like a lot of people my views on abortion are a bit conflicted. My head tells me there are valid reasons for terminating a pregnancy and the option should not be denied women. "It's my body and I can do with it what I want" is one of the tennets of libertarian creed, after all. However the corrolary to that is the obligation to accept responsibility for the consequences of one's actions.

Countering all that noble thinking is the deep rooted instinct that taking a life is rarely a good thing, especially when it is an innocent one. And sadly I don't have CL's conviction about when "life" begins. The same can be said for the Church's definition and the humanists' as well.

I guess overall I recognise that abortion should be available as an option, but only as a last resort.

Ms Moran obviously believes in the right to choose and attempts to make a reasoned argument for her decision. Instead she comes across as a woman making excuses for some rather selfish lifestyle choices and avoidance of responsibility. To my mind, her article will serve the opponents of abortion far more than its supporters.

Mr RM, Well said, I agree entirely.

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